Cliques-R-Us

separated_from_group_400_clr_9554I was an overweight, shy, only-child who moved every other year. I attended 11 schools from K through 12; tough to build friendships.  In college, I made a very deliberate decision to change who I was, I lost weight, found a sorority with like-minded sisters, and learned social skills I’d not learned before. I then was commissioned a Second Lieutenant in the U. S. Marine Corps, and left that sad child behind. I don’t get intimidated often, but when I do, it is usually the “mean girls” from high school that flip my trigger.

What do I mean by “mean girls?” Well, hopefully the Rachel McAdams stereotype has grown up to be less overt, and more caring. Honestly, if she didn’t I think she will struggle in today’s workforce. (more…)

Truth

There is a discussion on LinkedIn titled “As a Leader, do you hear less of the truth from your team?”  As I am writing this, there are 105 responses.  I have been seeing this on my weekly feed for some time, and each time I see it, it bothers me.  Perhaps it’s time to explore why.

revive truthFundamentally I am bothered by a sense that truth is growing more and more elusive.  We certainly have a few negative role models for truth in leadership these days, if you follow newspapers and business journals.  I had high hopes that the escapades of the likes of Enron, Arthur Andersen and others in the early 2000s might be a wake-up call to the world that we live in, that acting illegally has material consequences.  Not so much.

In the musical Wicked, Elphaba accuses the Wizard of lying to the people of Oz.  He pipes back, “Where I come from, we believe all sorts of things that aren’t true. We call it history.”  Well, that’s disturbing, but probably not too far from the truth.

In today’s world, we call it “spin.” (more…)

7 Lessons about Feedback from Candy Crush Saga

I admit it.  I am addicted.  They say the first step is to admit it, so here goes.  I am addicted to Candy Crush Saga.  If you aren’t familiar with it – don’t start!  It is an online game where you match three like candies to crush and remove them, thus making way for new candies.  You have a limited number of moves to crush sufficient candy or you fail.

failedIt doesn’t say, “you lose,” or “better luck next time.”  An odd little character jumps up and down with a frown on her face, next to the words, “Failed.”

Ouch.  That’s harsh, particularly when I did my best.  Those pesky little candies move really fast, and it’s hard to get them matched. (more…)